Tuesday, February 26, 2013

My Last Day of Being Pregnant

Well, THE day has arrived... and by "THE" day, I mean the LAST day I will ever be pregnant...

It's definitely bittersweet, but we have made our decision that this is our last baby & we're sticking by that decision...



If you read my miscarriage journey post, you know my body has been through a LOT since I got pregnant with my oldest child in 2001. It's been through 12 years of off and on pregnancies, losses, births, medications, injections, breastfeeding etc...

I honestly wouldn't mind having one more child, but with all that my body has been through and what it has to go through to STAY pregnant each time, it wouldn't be fair to the rest of the family to put them through all of that again and risk more damage to my health...

If I end up needing a c-section (not looking likely, but IF it happens), I will be getting my tubes tied at the same time. Our "backup" plan is hubby getting a vasectomy (something he doesn't REALLY want to do, but he's willing to do it for the sake of the family). He's already got his consult with urology scheduled for next week so the surgery would be a few weeks after that for him.

We are both realistic and know that financially, 4 children are expensive to raise... especially when they are as close in age as our 3 together are... We'll have multiple children in college for several years in a row... We also realize that a "big enough" home will be expensive, as will a bigger vehicle if we had MORE children after this one...

Despite all of that, we HAVE discussed the possibility that at some point in the future we MIGHT want another child. Sure, either procedure can be reversed, but that is an additional expense and health risk. So I brought up the topic of adoption. We had a serious talk about whether we would then foster and/or adopt an older and/or special needs child if we were able to. So that is where we are right now. Our biological family will be "complete" with William, but if, at some point down the road, we decide on another, we will look into adopting a child that needs a "forever" family but might not get picked because they are older or need special care.

We aren't doing it to get attention / recognition, we just know that there are so many children in the foster system that need homes and IF we feel we are able to provide for another child, that would be the best thing to do instead of putting my body & health through more turmoil.

Are you "done" having children? How did you come to that decision? Did you change your minds later? Are you considering adoption? Comment below with your thoughts!

Later Taters!

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